Custom Engagement and Wedding Rings

Brides to be:
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You’re going to “pop the question,” as the expression goes, and you want to do it right. Perhaps you’re an incurable romantic or just very much in love. Either way, you know how important the engagement ring will be to your future bride (assuming she says yes), and you have been shopping for that perfect ring for months. The good news is you know what you want; the bad news is you haven’t found it … at least, not in one ring. You’ve seen bits and pieces of your dream ring, but you can’t seem to find them all in one piece of jewelry or one place.

(Publisher's note: See this page for information about designing your own wedding rings.)

Custom Engagement Rings

It may be time to design your own engagement ring! Don’t panic. It’s not as hard as you may think. All you have to do is picture each element you want, put them together in a sketch (no matter how rough), and describe those elements to the person who will actually make it. Here’s how to do it.

If you analyze a typical engagement ring, you’ll see that it has only two basic parts: a stone and a setting. The stone is most often a diamond, but that’s not a hard and fast rule. Some of the most beautiful custom engagement rings are made with emeralds, pearls, rubies, or sapphires.

As you shopped, you probably saw many rings with a single, solitaire diamond set in some precious metal. You’re not bound by that design either. You might prefer to have a larger precious stone in the center of the ring, encircled by small diamonds.

Let’s say your bride to be has hinted that she wants a diamond ring. If that’s the case, you should take the time to educate yourself about diamonds. They are not all alike in appearance or quality. Jewelers don’t just look at a diamond to determine its quality. They rate each stone according to a diamond grading system. For more, see our pages on the four c's of grading: diamond color, clarity, cut, and carat (size).

After learning all you can about diamonds and evaluating each of these elements, once you make your choice, make sure the diamond is certified in writing. Since each diamond is a one of a kind, all of its qualities should be recorded by an independent laboratory. While there are many such laboratories, experts say the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) and American Gem Society (AGS) are most reputable and accurate. The certification or diamond grading report should include the exact measurement of the stone, as well as its color, clarity and carat weight. Ask for a certificate when you buy the stone. It is proof of your diamond's value.

Designing your own engagement ring setting.

Just as you evaluate the diamond, you should carefully consider the setting as you design the engagement ring. Most engagement rings are made form 14K or 18K white or yellow gold or platinum. The type of metal you choose is another factor in determining cost. Platinum is more expensive than gold but is gaining in popularity. Gold and platinum can be molded into intricate designs. Another choice, titanium, while extremely durable, lacks that flexibility.

Another reason your choice of metal is important is the design of the ring. Your options are vast but should be dictated by your fiancé’s preferred style. Here you will have to do some astute observation or sleuthing. Assuming you know her pretty well, that shouldn’t be too difficult. Here are some choices.

How does she dress — classic or chic?
What kind of jewelry does she wear — simple or elaborate, real or costume?
What is her overall style — modern or old-fashioned?
Are her hands small or large; her fingers, long, thin, short, or rounded?

Why are these things important? Because you want her custom engagement and wedding rings to complement her hands. If her fingers are short, you want a ring that makes them look longer. If her hand is small, you don’t want it overwhelmed with a huge ring, especially if she is going to wear her wedding ring on the same hand. If her hand is wide, opt for a ring that makes it look slender. The idea here is proportion. Imagine how many years she will be wearing that ring, and put some thought into how it will look on her hand.

One other consideration as you design an engagement ring is its practicality. If your bride to be is going to wear it every day while she engages in a range of activities, it has to be well constructed and durable. This is a lot to think about, but it is well worth the effort.

Special thank you to writing coach, editor, and ghostwriter Bobbi Linkemer, who contributed the original material throughout MyOnlineWeddingHelp.com.